Friend who is disrespectful

Read more to learn about the many forms of disrespect and how to create respect. Making statements that attack a person based on one or more social identity e.

Operating in a way that consistently ignores a group of people or minimizes their collective experiences. If no one says anything, even if the majority disagree with what has been said or done, a message is sent that this kind of behavior is acceptable in the community. One way to show disapproval is to call out the disrespectful behavior - saying:. If a situation is escalating, calling out the behavior may be the only way to stop it before someone gets hurt.

Often, though, the calling out intervention ends there; someone is disrespectful, you tell them so, and everyone leaves the situation disgruntled. Instead of only calling people out, we can go a step further and call them in to a conversation. What makes a good calling-in conversation? Here are some simple tips:. Contextualize the disrespect as a misstep, out of sync with their character. Belittling can look like someone dismissing your opinions, all the way through to humiliating you and putting you down, often in public.

You find out that a friend has been talking badly about you, is spreading rumors about you, or is complaining about you to other people who know you. Now, we all need to vent at some point, however much we love our friends! They might pick you up and drop you, and not understand that you want a friend who is committed to you in some way.

Some friendships that seem like they're on shaky ground can be saved: If you talk to your friend and they make a huge effort to change, it shows that they really do value your friendship, and perhaps had no idea their behavior was taking a toll on you.

Conversely, if they apologize and then make the same mistakes over and over again, it shows that they either can't change or don't care about you enough to try, and that you may be better off without them. Wondering if you need to have that talk? Here are seven signs you have a toxic friendship and it's time to have an honest conversation with your pal:. We all go through rough patches and there are times we'll really need the support of our friends — and vice versa.

The free give and take of support is one of the basic building blocks of friendship, and I'm definitely not saying you need to keep score of how many times each week you've offered a shoulder to cry on or listened to a friend vent about problems they're going through. But if you consistently drop everything to be there for your friend and they don't do the same for you when you're struggling, it's a sign that your friendship lacks a healthy balance. It's one thing if a friend voices honest, respectful concern about the way you're being treated by a family member or other friend.

But if they are saying negative things about your family members or your other close friends simply because they don't care for them, then they're being completely disrespectful and immature. If your friends don't like every single person who is important to you, that is certainly their right — but it's a situation where honesty is not the best policy and they should choose to just say nothing at all rather than engage in petty criticism or other rude talk about your loved ones. This is especially true when it comes to family members — our families are an extension of us and no matter how much they may drive us crazy, there's never an excuse for your friend to say hurtful or judgmental things about your parents or siblings.

If your friend engages in this kind of behavior, you might want to ask yourself exactly what you're getting out of the friendship. There's nothing worse than being super excited about a new job, house, or other life event and then having a friend immediately tell you it's not that amazing and you shouldn't be so happy about it. But even though it's a bummer to be around a friend who is constantly trash-talking, well, pretty much everything, this can be a tough one to draw the line on — because when someone is overwhelmingly negative, it's often because they're struggling emotionally.

As friends, we should certainly be there for each other through difficult times. However, it's OK to draw the line when a friend decides that because they're miserable, you should be unhappy about your life right along with them. If they're projecting their negativity onto you and and bringing you down, you have to look out for yourself, too.

Sadly, peer pressure doesn't end in high school.